is no storm quite like an emotional storm, and the trauma of a
separation from a loved one can be devastating and overwhelming. Some
people say it feels as if the ground is falling away beneath their
feet. It helps if you know thereís somewhere you can go right away
for help: Citizens Advice.
you and your partner or spouse have decided that separation is
inevitable, you should try to work out the practical details between
yourselves. But bear in mind that you might eventually need to
consult a solicitor as well to enshrine your agreement in law,
especially if you have assets or children. Going to court should be
regarded as a last resort.
with your ex-partner where you will live, where your children will
live, and how to split any money or belongings. If you and your
partner are too upset to talk to each other calmly, wait and talk
later, or use a mediator.
your partner makes you feel threatened, get help. Call Refuge or
Women's Aid on 0808 2000 247. There is also a Menís Advice Line on
0808 801 0327.
you have children with your partner, you are both responsible for the
cost of looking after them when you separate, even if you are not
married. The parent who moves out might have to pay maintenance to
the parent who looks after the children.
any outstanding debts or loans that you might have, and think about
who needs to be informed about the separation. If you pay council
tax, or receive benefits or tax credits, get in touch with the
relevant people and tell them about your new status.
Advice can help you find the ground beneath your feet so you can move
on. Call Citizens
Advice Adviceline on 0300 3309 042 or come and see us in person. For
locations of offices and opening hours visit
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